Not to kick you while you're down or anything.. but condoms aren't 100% effective bro. If you didn't want to be in this situation, you probably shouldn't have even pulled your 'little pecker' out.
That aside, I still feel for you man. Reading this actually pisses me off that you are in this situation.. and normally when I get pissed off about a post from you, it's because you act a fool about the Packers/Vikings.
Hang in there man.
Originally Posted by: Formo
Look, I know about condoms, I knew then, but I thought I was in love, thought I met a great girl, thought she'd be the last girl I'd have and also thought since she was on birth control and we're using condom's that the chances were slim to none.
This perception of 'hey you porked her, its your fault, you made the choice, you deal with the consequences' really pisses me off. Because this isn't just me that it's hurting. Sure I have my low moments, sure I have my doubts, but in the end, I find a way to pull through.
What I have a problem handling is a system that says they want equality with parents, that they want fairness, they strive to do what is best for the child ... for this same system to let Rebecca's mother walk on water with no consequences for HER actions??? And then make me live off Ramen noodles while she gets to take vacations every year while being UNEMPLOYED?? No, that I do not agree with. That bothers me.
I pay my child support every month. I provide the insurance for Rebecca. I'm doing MY part of MY choices consequences ... why isn't the mother being held accountable? That's ONE of my issues.
The other and this is the biggest ... the loss of a relationship between my daughter and myself. My girls should have their daddy. My girls should have a sibling relationship.
So if anyone wants to say this is my fault because of my choices, go fuck yourself, but thanks for your opinion. Forgive me for not being able to foresee several years down the road that ANY mother could be this despicable and cruel and for thinking people were kind.
I've learned a lot through the years and it's why I've remained single for 7 1/1 years out of the past 8 years since I broke it off with Rebecca's mother ... I don't want to go through it again. I don't even try having a relationship anymore. I'm scared of being involved with another girl and push them away when I start feeling vulnerable and it's because of this and what my daughters are being put through and what they're missing out on.
4PackGirl - unfortunately I have massive sand in my vagina because of this whole thing so I'm more sensitive then a sex deprived woman on PMS.
Bottom line is, I know my choices, I know my consequences, I am accountable of them and for them ... why isn't the mother held to the same accord? Why does this system require me to continue spending money for motion and petition after motion and petition only to do nothing ... yet the mother says I need more money, increase my child support they jump all over it, give me a $16k raise before calculating my child support and then if I want them to fix their mistake I ... get this ... I have to PAY to file a motion to have them review it and fix their mistake.