Yerko
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16 years ago
Whats going on everyone? So...let the countdown begin, I am getting married in t-minus 11 DAYS. Might sound crazy but reality is just now hitting me. She started moving her stuff into the new place yesterday and the thought in my mind was.."holy shit". Its a good "holy shit" of course, if there is such a thing.

I am very excited and wouldn't mind if the day was tomorrow to be honest, but my nerves are definitely tingling. I am so damn nervous.
We are getting married in Grand Rapids, Michigan July 3rd, 2009 @ 3pm.

So...for the married folks out there, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Newlywed tips yada yada. Oh yeah, I just applied to begin my Masters in August!!!

Thanks much.

Sean :thumbleft:
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dhpackr
16 years ago
your sig says it all

also, treat her the way you want to be treated, and every thing will be ok.
So if you meet me Have some courtesy, Have some sympathy, and some taste
Use all your well-learned politesse, Or I'll lay your soul to waste
Zero2Cool
16 years ago
I'd say treat her as if it was the first day you met, everyday of your life.

If that doesn't help you, I say...
RUN WHILE YOU CAN!!
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4PackGirl
16 years ago
since i'm in the home stretch towards marriage #2 & FINAL marriage...

try to focus on the marriage as a whole.

don't let the little things drive you nuts - remember why you married her.

don't allow yourselves to grow apart. adapt your relationship to change because you will both change alot during your marriage.

if you think things should be getting easier, you're wrong. marriage is hard work but well worth it. 😃
Nonstopdrivel
16 years ago
The number-one mistake men make when they get married is they get domesticated. Don't fall for that trap. Don't become predictable, or your wife will quickly get bored with you. In other words, never stop treating your wife like a girlfriend. To this day, people don't believe that my wife and I are married, but they have to admit we're the happiest married couple they've ever met.

The second piece of advice I have for you is never stop demanding -- yes, I said DEMANDING -- respect from your wife, and you both will be much happier. Of course, to demand respect, you must be worthy of respect, so always bear that in mind. But women are strange: They will constantly buck for control in the relationship, but the moment you give it to them, they begin to despise you. Never cede control over the relationship to your woman, and she will feel much more secure. Plus she will respect and admire you, which will feel very good for your ego and deepen your love for her. Learn how to maintain control without being controlling -- it's a delicate balancing act, but one that will pay off dividends down the road.

Avoid the two most common mistakes men make -- getting boring and ceding control, which are two sides of the same coin -- and you will be amazed at how rewarding marriage can be. Treat her like a girlfriend and demand respect, and she will adore you.

Oh, and congrulations. You have my warmest wishes for a long and prosperous future.
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Zero2Cool
16 years ago
She's happy cuz you spend more of your time here. 😉 (sorry had to)
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zombieslayer
16 years ago
AKamp - Yeah, several. Make sure both you and she actually follow the vows you will take. That includes for rich and for poor. I can't speak for the rest of the country, but in California, I'm convinced the majority of marriages end because one person is a complete idiot with money. In mine, it's my wife, so I became a Nazi with our finances, took both of our paychecks, and gave her an allowance. It saved our marriage. As cold as that sounds, it's true.

The other thing, you got to agree on roles and stick to them. Do that before you get married. Stick to them too. Did I mention you need to stick to your roles? Good. Hopefully that sinks in. And that's for both of you, not just one of you.

My advice for you - there will be hot girls who will tempt you. Keep it in your pants. As long as it's in your pants, it won't ruin your marriage. I'm serious about this one too. There will be temptations. It's part of life. So keep it in your pants.

There you go. Follow that advice and you should be good.

Marriage takes work. I hope both of you understand that. The rewards are worth it, but only if BOTH of you are willing to do the work.
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zombieslayer
16 years ago

The number-one mistake men make when they get married is they get domesticated. Don't fall for that trap. Don't become predictable, or your wife will quickly get bored with you. In other words, never stop treating your wife like a girlfriend. To this day, people don't believe that my wife and I are married, but they have to admit we're the happiest married couple they've ever met.

The second piece of advice I have for you is never stop demanding -- yes, I said DEMANDING -- respect from your wife, and you both will be much happier. Of course, to demand respect, you must be worthy of respect, so always bear that in mind. But women are strange: They will constantly buck for control in the relationship, but the moment you give it to them, they begin to despise you. Never cede control over the relationship to your woman, and she will feel much more secure. Plus she will respect and admire you, which will feel very good for your ego and deepen your love for her. Learn how to maintain control without being controlling -- it's a delicate balancing act, but one that will pay off dividends down the road.

Avoid the two most common mistakes men make -- getting boring and ceding control, which are two sides of the same coin -- and you will be amazed at how rewarding marriage can be. Treat her like a girlfriend and demand respect, and she will adore you.

Oh, and congrulations. You have my warmest wishes for a long and prosperous future.

"Nonstopdrivel" wrote:



Holy shit this is good advice. AKamp - print this out and memorize it.
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dhpackr
16 years ago
that's one thing that is crazy.

once you start wearing that gold band on your finger, and you go out for guys night out, you will not believe the amount of women that will start hitting on you.

that gold band is like a chick magnet.
So if you meet me Have some courtesy, Have some sympathy, and some taste
Use all your well-learned politesse, Or I'll lay your soul to waste
Pack93z
16 years ago
My golden rule on marriage #2...

Listen more than you speak and show her the respect she deserves always.

I followed those two simple rules the first time, and they worked beautifully for about 6 years.. then she changed. Can't win them all.

Congrats and good luck.
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