I wouldn't call it a fight. She swung, connected. I shouted something like "wow so THATS how you solve issues?" and as I turned to walk away she punched me in the left side of the face.

Unfortunately the courts let her slide, again. This was her second physical assault charge in nearly a year. First assault was 4/2009 and it was dropped to a disorderly conduct. Then she physically assaulted me on fathers day 2010, also dropped to disorderly conduct. She walks on water.


Two years ago they bumped my child support up to $470, I understood that because of my salary increase. She apparently wants more money, as so the case worker told me "she called saying she needs more money and says you changed jobs, thats how we can review your child support again". How about getting a god damn job? They reviewed it and now say I need to pay $774 a month.

They messed up on their calculations because they didn't give me credit for Keiana being with me near full time, they didn't give me credit for providing medical, dental and vision insurance and they added about $5k to my salary.

So they messed up on three fronts and if I want them to fix it, guess what, I have to PAY for them to review and fix THEIR mistakes. How can this stuff happen? I don't understand it. I feel like my daughters are being rob of their sibling relationship and Rebecca is being robbed of her father daughter relationship with me. And it seems the courts don't care at all as long as I keep shelling out more and more money.

If they keep taking money from one parent and giving it to another, where's the incentive for the unemployed parent to be responsible and accountable for themselves by getting a job?

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Why I'm not married. Women are nut jobs. And laws do not apply to them, so you're fucked either way. I don't need that bs in my life.

I was looking for the statistics Rourke posted awhile back in one of these threads, unsuccessfully.

I did find this and it's pretty shocking.
http://fathersforlife.org/divorce/chldrndiv.htm 

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All I can say, Kev, is this. The courts will continue to screw you until Rebecca is 18. Be prepared for that. But meanwhile, fight the good fight and continue loving and respecting your girl. I'll almost promise, years down the road, she'll see the liar her mother is and come to love and respect you that much more.

Sorry you have to deal with that crap dude. At least you have an NFL team that wins a championship every now and then.

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My dad said the same thing, that it won't last forever, she'll turn 18 eventually (not for 10 years), but shes missing out on time with her father and sister. I might be able to replace the money eventually, but Rebecca, Keiana and I are all missing out on something that can't be replaced.

I've spent a good portion of the morning and afternoon looking into my options and it's looking slim. It's essentially the court can do whatever they want unless you have a high priced attorney that's cut throat.

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Well, perhaps there's a strategy that offers a way to reduced that 10 years by several years.

What if: (i) you continue to play along with being the good citizen with the effed up court/social services system for a couple more years. (ii) Meanwhile start an attorney fund. (iii) Then in a couple years when, inevitably, said system tries to bend you over again, drop one of those high priced scumbag family practice attorneys upon them.

Call this taking the Delayed Clausewitz approach.

Short run, you and the girls appeared screwed regardless. But you might be able to strategize to shorted the period of screwing to something shorter than "until their majority".

Save your nickels, then go for the take-no-prisoners nuclear option.

Just a thought.

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Yeah, I know it's a long time. And you are right in that you are ultimately missing out on time that obviously can NOT be replaced. But just keep in mind that it's never too late. She'll some time come around to find the truth of your situation and then you'll be able to generate that much more memories.

Hopefully Wade's idea is somewhat of an option for you. That way you'd be able to speed up the process.

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It seems each time I save money, something like this happens where I have to dip into it to make ends meet. The more I get ahead, the more they put me behind. It's frustrating and disappointing.

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Wow, so child support gets back to me and they calculated my salary as being $16k MORE than I actually make. And they don't see a problem with this. Talk about taking the fight out of the dog... unreal.

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The courts/family services/arbitration boards all think the dad's are the scum of he earth. They are all rotten, lying, d!cks who would steal the food right out of their own children's mouths and toss it to the dogs. Then backhand the kid for complaining. They will never change their opinion. Nor try to reform the system.

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