Nonstopdrivel
15 years ago

Because when we don't take more responsibility for the consequences, not only are we perceived as a dick,

"Formo" wrote:



So I should modify my sexual choices because others might think I'm a dick? That argument doesn't fly with me. If they don't like my choices, they will choose not to associate with me. More power to them. Living how one wants to live is a very efficient way of weeding out people who aren't compatible.

but it's creates a breeding ground for making excuses for the rest of our actions.

"Formo" wrote:



This is a slippery slope argument and therefore suspect. If I don't take more responsibility for the consequences of my choices than my partner does, I might become a deadbeat in other areas? I beg to differ.

Because maybe we don't have the responsibility of carrrying the 'consequence' of sex around in our bellies for 9 months.

"Formo" wrote:



I always rejected that inane argument my mother used to make: "I bore you in my womb for 9 months, therefore you owe me such-and-such." And I reject it now coming from you. It's not as though I had any choice in whose womb I was conceived. If a woman is concerned about avoiding pregnancy, she'll take the steps necessary to avoid it, whether that's abstinence or contraception (on her end, her partner's end, or preferably both). If she fails to take those steps, then I can only assume she is secretly hoping to become pregnant for some reason of her own.

It happens all the time. I should know. That's how I became a father.
UserPostedImage
Formo
15 years ago

Because when we don't take more responsibility for the consequences, not only are we perceived as a dick,

"Nonstopdrivel" wrote:



So I should modify my sexual choices because others might think I'm a dick? That argument doesn't fly with me. If they don't like my choices, they will choose not to associate with me. More power to them. Living how one wants to live is a very efficient way of weeding out people who aren't compatible.

but it's creates a breeding ground for making excuses for the rest of our actions.

"Formo" wrote:



This is a slippery slope argument and therefore suspect. If I don't take more responsibility for the consequences of my choices than my partner does, I might become a deadbeat in other areas? I beg to differ.

"Formo" wrote:



Hey, feel free to freelance your responsibilities. That's cool, and your thing. Don't get pissy, though, when someone may tell you to step up said responsibilities. Nothing bad or wrong comes from taking up more responsibilities.

Because maybe we don't have the responsibility of carrrying the 'consequence' of sex around in our bellies for 9 months.

"Nonstopdrivel" wrote:



I always rejected that inane argument my mother used to make: "I bore you in my womb for 9 months, therefore you owe me such-and-such." And I reject it now coming from you. It's not as though I had any choice in whose womb I was conceived. If a woman is concerned about avoiding pregnancy, she'll take the steps necessary to avoid it, whether that's abstinence or contraception (on her end, her partner's end, or preferably both). If she fails to take those steps, then I can only assume she is secretly hoping to become pregnant for some reason of her own.

It happens all the time. I should know. That's how I became a father.

"Formo" wrote:



I'm not saying we owe women such-and-such because they carry for 9 months. I'm saying we respect it by taking up responsibilities. Even ones you feel you don't need to take up. That way, at the end of the day, there's nothing left on the table. Therefore, no excuses. Your method, while very valid, leaves a bigger chance for something to be left up to excuses. I'm one that doesn't take to well to excuses.

BTW, if I seem short, it's because I just watch the hockey game and had a little 'spat' with the wifey. I apologize for any shortness or harshness from me. The apology lasts up to tomorrow. lol
UserPostedImage
Thanks to TheViking88 for the sig!!
Nonstopdrivel
15 years ago
I don't understand the quibble you and Cheesey have with my position or why you seem to be trying to hard to delineate your positions from mine. I have said over and over -- in this thread and many others -- that people bear full responsibility for their actions. Specifically, in this case, if a couple gets pregnant together, they need to take responsibility for the child and give it the best life they can.
UserPostedImage
Wade
  • Wade
  • Veteran Member
15 years ago
1. I admire people who take a chastity pledge. Especially if they do it out of a desire to please the Lord. Not because I believe that it is what God demands of them -- I have a hard enough job figuring out what God desires of me, than to presume to know what God desires of others. But I do believe that God loves people who live to please him; and so if they do things like being chaste or eating kosher or saying a dozen Hail Mary's each day because they are striving to serve his Will, then I admire them.

1A. I believe God tells each of us in the Bible what he wants of us. But I think the "each of" is critical. I read the Bible for what he wants of me. I don't read the Bible for what he wants of others. My "proselytzing" role starts and ends with trying to convince people that having faith in Him is the coolest thing they could do; it doesn't extend to what they must do to show that faith. That's His job. Not mine.

2. I have no problem with a parent trying to regulate his/her child's sexual practice. It's part of the set of choices parents have to make as parents, and as someone who has never been nor desired to be a parent, I think parents should be able to make such serious choices even if they are choices I would not make.

3. In general, I think it is no one else's business what another human being does with the dangly or hollow bits. It's not my place to judge why people make such pledges or break them. It's not my place to substitute my choice for that of the parent or the child.

4. God knows what he wants us to do. I don't. I do believe he wants me to use the dangly bits in certain ways and only with certain people. But I have no clue what he wants others to do with theirs. And I find it really hard to believe that, apart from the "parental responsibility" thing, he really wants us paying attention and judging what they do or don't do.
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
Romans 12:2 (NKJV)
Nonstopdrivel
15 years ago
I agree wholeheartedly. I think chastity and monogamy are beautiful and admirable, even noble, choices. I respect those who make those choices. I just don't think that other choices are somehow inferior.
UserPostedImage
Cheesey
15 years ago
Inferior? Maybe not.
But as i said, if you fool around, then don't piss and moan when you end up with a pregnancy or a STD.
You have the right to make your own choice. But then you may end up having to pay the consequences.
Non, how do you feel that i'm some how attacking you by stating this?
I'm not "quibbling" at all in my view.
UserPostedImage
Wade
  • Wade
  • Veteran Member
15 years ago

We are getting into the slippery slope of interpreting the bible.. which I have encompassed for a couple of years.

I am a Christian, raised Catholic that was tossed from Sunday school for questioning the bible and the interpretations around it.. I will say this.. The Bible verses are the flawed word of God and Jesus.. as it was interpreted by man and his perception of the meaning or intent. Hence why different religions vary in understanding the word of the Lord...

Now.. ducking out of this conversation.

"pack93z" wrote:



Er. Um. Well, I'll buy "flawed interpretation" part (at least intellectually). Can't go so far as to say God and Jesus were flawed, though. God can't be flawed.

He might not exist. But if he does, he's, well, er, God.

Pedantically, and fundamentalistically, yours,

Wade
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
Romans 12:2 (NKJV)
Wade
  • Wade
  • Veteran Member
15 years ago

My argument for waiting to have sex is airproof.

If you aren't mature enough to raise a child on your own, you aren't mature enough to copulate.

"Formo" wrote:



Unless you're willing to have the "operation" first, of course.
And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
Romans 12:2 (NKJV)
Nonstopdrivel
15 years ago

Inferior? Maybe not.
But as i said, if you fool around, then don't piss and moan when you end up with a pregnancy or a STD.
You have the right to make your own choice. But then you may end up having to pay the consequences.

"Cheesey" wrote:



Agreed wholeheartedly. Make the choice -- accept the consequences. I couldn't agree more.

Non, how do you feel that i'm some how attacking you by stating this?
I'm not "quibbling" at all in my view.

"Cheesey" wrote:



No, I don't feel you're attacking me at all. My point was that I think it's become obvious that you, Formo, and I agree far more than we disagree, so I'm not sure why you two persist in trying to create more distance between our positions than actually exists. That's the "quibble" to which I was referring. I think it has to do with the fact that my belief in personal responsibility stems primarily from a libertarian philosophy, while yours stems from a belief in moral accountability to God (a view to which I'm not averse, by the way), so it seems as if they're more disparate than they really are.
UserPostedImage
djcubez
15 years ago
My problem with chastity and abstinence is that educators attempt to get away with it as the only sex education you need. A lot of kids are just taught "not to do it" and are not given any formal education on STD's or contraception. So when one of these "retarded teenagers" actually decides to engage in sexual activity they are putting themselves in a more dangerous position than a person who has been taught about it. I have nothing against people who choose abstinence but everyone should be taught how to engage in safe sexual activity, regardless of whether or not they foresee themselves doing so.

The whole Palin situation? I get irked a bit by the man thing to. I don't have many facts on the case but say Levi wanted Bristol to get an abortion or give it up for adoption. Bristol obviously wouldn't go through with it and after giving birth requests child support from Levi. Why should he have to pay for a child he didn't want? I feel like the man is cornered here because of the woman's decision. It was mutual for them to have sex and for one reason or another she got pregnant. It was not mutual for them to have a child but because she wants it he has to pay for it. Imagine the reverse--that Levi wants the child but Bristol doesn't. Bristol can go through with the abortion or adoption because it's her body. Basically, if you as a male impregnate a women during mutual intercourse it's almost completely up to her as to what to do about it and you have to face the consequences regardless.

Now in the case of Bristol and Levi, in my opinion both the kids are pretty naive so I really don't care what happens lol.
Fan Shout
dfosterf (3-Jul) : Make sure to send my props to him! A plus move!
Zero2Cool (3-Jul) : My cousin, yes.
dfosterf (3-Jul) : That was your brother the GB press gazette referenced with the red cross draft props thing, yes?
Zero2Cool (2-Jul) : Packers gonna unveil new throwback helmet in few weeks.
Mucky Tundra (2-Jul) : I know it's Kleiman but this stuff writes itself
Mucky Tundra (2-Jul) : "Make sure she signs the NDA before asking for a Happy Ending!"
Mucky Tundra (2-Jul) : @NFL_DovKleiman Powerful: Deshaun Watson is taking Shedeur Sanders 'under his wing' as a mentor to the Browns QBs
Zero2Cool (30-Jun) : Dolphins get (back) Minkah Fitzpatrick in trade
Zero2Cool (30-Jun) : Steelers land Jalen Ramsey via Trade
dfosterf (26-Jun) : I think it would be great to have someone like Tom Grossi or Andy Herman on the Board of Directors so he/they could inform us
dfosterf (26-Jun) : Fair enough, WPR. Thing is, I have been a long time advocate to at least have some inkling of the dynamics within the board.
wpr (26-Jun) : 1st world owners/stockholders problems dfosterf.
Martha Careful (25-Jun) : I would have otherwise admirably served
dfosterf (25-Jun) : Also, no more provision for a write-in candidate, so Martha is off the table at least for this year
dfosterf (25-Jun) : You do have to interpret the boring fine print, but all stockholders all see he is on the ballot
dfosterf (25-Jun) : It also says he is subject to another ballot in 2028. I recall nothing of this nature with Murphy
dfosterf (25-Jun) : Ed Policy is on my ballot subject to me penciling him in as a no.
dfosterf (25-Jun) : I thought it used to be we voted for the whatever they called the 45, and then they voted for the seven, and then they voted for Mark Murphy
dfosterf (25-Jun) : Because I was too lazy to change my address, I haven't voted fot years until this year
dfosterf (25-Jun) : of the folks that run this team. I do not recall Mark Murphy being subject to our vote.
dfosterf (25-Jun) : Ed Policy yay or nay is on the pre-approved ballot that we always approve because we are uninformed and lazy, along with all the rest
dfosterf (25-Jun) : Weird question. Very esoteric. For stockholders. Also lengthy. Sorry. Offseason.
Zero2Cool (25-Jun) : Maybe wicked wind chill made it worse?
Mucky Tundra (25-Jun) : And then he signs with Cleveland in the offseason
Mucky Tundra (25-Jun) : @SharpFootball WR Diontae Johnson just admitted he refused to enter a game in 41° weather last year in Baltimore because he felt “ice cold”
Zero2Cool (24-Jun) : Yawn. Rodgers says he is "pretty sure" this be final season.
Zero2Cool (23-Jun) : PFT claims Packers are having extension talks with Zach Tom, Quay Walker.
Mucky Tundra (20-Jun) : GB-Minnesota 2004 Wild Card game popped up on my YouTube page....UGH
beast (20-Jun) : Hmm 🤔 re-signing Walker before Tom? Sounds highly questionable to me.
Mucky Tundra (19-Jun) : One person on Twitter=cannon law
Zero2Cool (19-Jun) : Well, to ONE person on Tweeter
Zero2Cool (19-Jun) : According to Tweeter
Zero2Cool (19-Jun) : Packers are working on extension for LT Walker they hope to have done before camp
dfosterf (18-Jun) : E4B landed at Andrews last night
dfosterf (18-Jun) : 101 in a 60
dfosterf (18-Jun) : FAFO
Zero2Cool (18-Jun) : one year $4m with incentives to make it up to $6m
dfosterf (18-Jun) : Or Lions
dfosterf (18-Jun) : Beats the hell out of a Vikings signing
Zero2Cool (18-Jun) : Baltimore Ravens now have signed former Packers CB Jaire Alexander.
dfosterf (14-Jun) : TWO magnificent strikes for touchdowns. Lose the pennstate semigeezer non nfl backup
dfosterf (14-Jun) : There was minicamp Thursday. My man Taylor Engersma threw
dfosterf (11-Jun) : There will be a mini camp practice Thursday.
Zero2Cool (11-Jun) : He's been sporting a ring for a while now. It's probably Madonna.
Martha Careful (10-Jun) : We only do the tea before whoopee, it relaxes me.
wpr (10-Jun) : That's awesome Martha.
Mucky Tundra (10-Jun) : How's the ayahuasca tea he makes, Martha?
Martha Careful (10-Jun) : Turns out he like older women
Martha Careful (10-Jun) : I wasn't supposed to say anything, but yes the word is out and we are happy 😂😂😂
Mucky Tundra (10-Jun) : I might be late on this but Aaron Rodgers is now married
Please sign in to use Fan Shout
2025 Packers Schedule
Sunday, Sep 7 @ 3:25 PM
LIONS
Thursday, Sep 11 @ 7:15 PM
COMMANDERS
Sunday, Sep 21 @ 12:00 PM
Browns
Sunday, Sep 28 @ 7:20 PM
Cowboys
Sunday, Oct 12 @ 3:25 PM
BENGALS
Sunday, Oct 19 @ 3:25 PM
Cardinals
Sunday, Oct 26 @ 7:20 PM
Steelers
Sunday, Nov 2 @ 12:00 PM
PANTHERS
Monday, Nov 10 @ 7:15 PM
EAGLES
Sunday, Nov 16 @ 12:00 PM
Giants
Sunday, Nov 23 @ 12:00 PM
VIKINGS
Thursday, Nov 27 @ 12:00 PM
Lions
Sunday, Dec 7 @ 12:00 PM
BEARS
Sunday, Dec 14 @ 3:25 PM
Broncos
Friday, Dec 19 @ 11:00 PM
Bears
Friday, Dec 26 @ 11:00 PM
RAVENS
Saturday, Jan 3 @ 11:00 PM
Vikings
Recent Topics
4-Jul / Green Bay Packers Talk / wpr

2-Jul / Green Bay Packers Talk / dfosterf

2-Jul / Fantasy Sports Talk / dfosterf

1-Jul / Green Bay Packers Talk / wpr

29-Jun / Green Bay Packers Talk / Zero2Cool

25-Jun / Around The NFL / Martha Careful

23-Jun / Green Bay Packers Talk / Mucky Tundra

20-Jun / Green Bay Packers Talk / wpr

20-Jun / Green Bay Packers Talk / beast

20-Jun / Green Bay Packers Talk / beast

18-Jun / Random Babble / Zero2Cool

16-Jun / Green Bay Packers Talk / dfosterf

15-Jun / Random Babble / Martha Careful

14-Jun / Around The NFL / beast

14-Jun / Community Welcome! / dfosterf

Headlines
Copyright © 2006 - 2025 PackersHome.com™. All Rights Reserved.