Smokey, no one can draw you into their "family drama". And you are constantly "ordering" people on here what to do (or NOT to do). I'm sorry if not all of us have your idea of perfect lives.
I have no children. My parents are dead (have been since 1974, Dad, and 1990, Mom) and my brother since 1994.
No other family members that really seem to care.
So my Christmas is just me and the wife, and our Chihuahua, Baby Girl.
I wish I could have a big Christmas, but it won't happen.
Enjoy them while you can. And make the best of it. That's what I do.