ok - on the flip side, why are women in trouble? i can only speak for myself but for some damn reason, i pick guys who need 'help'. not cuz they're crazy lunatics but the 1st hubby was a drunk & verbally abusive. 2nd hubby, i found out after i married him that he was physically abused by his dad til he was 16. he's never gone to any sort of counseling for it, never worked on figuring out how it affected his life, nothing. like i said, was never talked about til after we were married.
now i'm having problems. i walk on egg shells constantly. i never know when he's gonna go off. the anger inside him is palpable. he's never touched me or the kids. but some examples of what has been going on...
on mother's day, we took the kids to a nice park, he got irritated by another dad & his kids, so he gets into a HUGE argument with a complete stranger - nearly got into a fist fight - with me & the kids right there. it was horrible. i can't even describe what it was like. i'm not used to violent behavior & neither are the boys.
then when we go out to eat, if anyone is talking loudly, he'll confront them right there. not in an even remotely nice way either. just starts telling people how stupid they are & they need to respect others.
yesterday, we got home after (what the boys & i thought) was a nice camping weekend. we were tired but just chilled out watching football in the afternoon, etc... i go to put the boys to bed & he yelled at one of them for not turning the tv off in their playroom. (which is a constant thing with them) i kind of looked at him like 'dayum - relax it there buddy' & he goes OFF on me in front of the boys. starts telling me i need to learn to shut my damn mouth more often. that all i care about is myself. that all i did was yack yack yack during the football game (gimme a break - it was the pats game - who the f cares) but that during the packers game, everybody better sit down & shut the hell up. i just stood there in total shock.
i just really don't know what to do. my step son, jesse, is 20 years old. i am totally alone here. he's actually come to me to express his concern about his dad. how his dad makes him feel like shit most of the time & how he tries to figure out why his dad can't be happy. if it weren't for jesse, i swear i'd feel like this was all my fault, that i must be doing something wrong, because the hubby insists i am. i'm not perfect but i've never done the things he's done, not even close, & i've never been rude, mean, or inconsiderate to jesse but he feels he can be that 90% of the time with the twins.
i'm at the end of my rope here & i'm hoping to get some advice from you guys. here i go again opening myself up to personal attacks but i really don't care. i seriously need some help. i am alone. so very alone.
Originally Posted by: 4PackGirl