i haven't talked about this on here but i need to share it with my PH family.
back in january, cole started refusing to go to his dads. cole is his dads 'favorite' & cole has always idolized him. so needless to say, this was a very odd turn of events.
since then, i've had cole in therapy & they believe he has anxiety issues & is depressed. the ex (alcoholic mooch) has been horrible to deal with. no matter how many times the therapist & i have expressed to him that he CANNOT put pressure on cole or make him feel bad about the situation, he continues to do it.
i honestly feel bad for my ex but have told him that on his weekends, he is more than welcome to come down here & take them bowling, out to lunch, to the movies, whatever...he's come once since january...ONCE.
i just can't believe how much i took the happiness of my kids for granted. we were going along enjoying life, everything was great, & then boom - it's not. i've cried so many times over this. the ex's family thinks i've 'poisoned' the boys against them. i assure you i have not. i think that cole has seen his dad for what he is, realizes how much it sucks, & doesn't know how to deal with it.
his license is revoked but he drove them around anyway.
then when i found out about it, he acted like it was no big deal.
i told the boys to never get in a vehicle alone with him again.
so, he decides to leave the boys home alone & drive himself to mcdonald's with no license, cuz he felt like it.
cole is a 'by the book' kinda kid. he thinks people should follow the rules. seeing his dad not doing that upsets him.
most of you are guys - any other ideas what could be bothering him? my tummy is in knots every day because i just want my happy kid back. as for cory, he shut off his feelings to his dad years ago. i worry about him too...trust me.