This chick reminds me of someone I fucked a few years ago. She whined for years that her husband was incapable of satisfying her, that she could not get off from intercourse, only oral sex, and other such tidbits. After a few years of being "best friends" (we had been deployed to Iraq together), we ended up in bed together. She was absolutely DREADFUL, one of the worst lays I have ever experienced. She was such a fucking control freak, she couldn't let go long enough to have an orgasm. Even worse, she had this sandpaper-rough ridge in her vagina that made intercourse physically painful -- I would rather get a handjob with a loofah than get off inside that vagina again. Her poor husband. I don't know how he can bear having sex with her. But they just had another kid together, so he must somehow. After my experience with her, I realized her sexual problems were at least as much her own fault as his.
I could not stand to have a relationship with a woman who was so uptight that she could only manage to have an orgasm one way. Maybe I am just spoiled with my slutwife, but I can give her an orgasm from almost any part of her body. Orgasms for women are far more about the mental and emotional component than the physical element anyway. A couple weeks ago, my wife and I were in the middle of foreplay, and I leaned over to whisper in her ear: "I don't want your climax to depend on a particular rhythm or speed, but rather to flow out of your surrender and connection to me." My God . . . she went into a convulsive orgasm that lasted just over a minute; I wasn't even touching her genitals.
That's why I always say, "Technique is for losers." If the only thing separating your woman from an orgasm is the particular technique or tempo you are using, you have lost the mental game, where it truly counts, and you seriously need to to start over. "Stay focused and play with the clit" is some of the most terrible, juvenile advice I have ever seen given to men. The clit should be one of the last destinations you arrive at; too many men treat it like an on/off switch as it is.
And as for the admonition about lubricant, it sounds like this woman has either some mental hangups or some physical issues -- or both. Sure, there are times (during menstruation or pregnancy, for example) when a woman will have difficulties with sufficient lubrication, but if it becomes the norm to the point that she thinks all women need outside assistance, she needs to get checked out. Or find a new lover. Or learn how to relax. Or all of the above.
This article has some good ideas (going gentle on the nipples and nibbling the fingers particularly), but overall, it reads like a perfect recipe for turning a man into a
horrible, mechanical lover.