Nonstopdrivel
14 years ago


Two Vaginas Drove Pal to Death
 

Published: 16 Oct 2007

[img_r]http://img.thesun.co.uk/multimedia/archive/00372/kerrie_372814a.jpg[/img_r]TRAGIC Kerrie Wooltorton longed to have children.

But she had two vaginas, which meant it was almost impossible.

Here Kerrie's best friend Melanie Miller, from Norwich, describes how the rare condition drove her to suicide.

"I've just had sex," whooped Kerrie.

"That's brilliant," I cried.

Kerrie and I had been friends for 13 years and at 25 she'd lost her virginity at last.

It was a big event because until now she hadn't been physically able.

Kerrie had a rare condition called uterus didelphys, which meant she had two vaginas, two cervixes and two uteruses.

Her confidence that night was something new - actually Kerrie had spent most of her life avoiding boys and sex.

Things were different for me. At 18, I fell in love with Simon and we had a baby, Chloe.

When Kerrie first met Matthew, a couple of years later, their physical relationship hadn't got off to a great start.

I well remember the sound of Kerrie's teary voice on the phone after several failed attempts.

"It's impossible," she sobbed.

Devastated, she went to the doctor.

She was told she'd have to wait a few years until her cervix had stopped developing to have her first smear test.

That, he said, would show up any abnormalities.

During that time Kerrie and Matthew split and she slipped into a dark depression.

She even started self-harming and was diagnosed with depression.

Two years on I'd split with Simon and became pregnant again after a fling.
To soften the blow to Kerrie I asked her to be my baby George's godmother.

"Thank-you," she gasped, "It means so much."

A few months later the summons for Kerrie's smear test finally arrived.

During the appointment I sat with her in the hospital as the specialist told us about uterus didelphys.

At least it was treatable.

The fleshy wall dividing Kerrie's vaginas could be removed, allowing her to have sex, and hopefully to conceive too.

Thankfully the operation was successful and eventually she and Matthew got back together.

And a few months on Kerrie and Matthew had taken the first step to fulfilling her dream of motherhood - she'd had sex.

Everything revolved around Kerrie's desperation for a baby and she was constantly in the loo with a pregnancy test.

But as months passed, the happiness faded.

"My period's arrived," she'd sob.

I'd try to reassure her but nothing soothed Kerrie's anguish.

One night I sat alone while the kids were in bed and suddenly my mobile buzzed.

It was a text from her.

I've taken an overdose, it read. I'm sorry. Please don't call an ambulance.

Panicking I dialled 999 and then asked my neighbour to look after the kids before heading for Kerrie's place.

When I arrived at Kerrie's five minutes later her door was open and upstairs she'd passed out on the bed.

"What have you done?" I wailed.

Kerrie was still breathing so I pushed her into the recovery position and waited for the ambulance.

At the hospital doctors pumped her stomach and confirmed she'd live.

"I'm sorry, I can't live without a baby," she whispered.

Those words made me crumble.

When I took Kerrie home the next day, Matthew was waiting.

But soon, Kerrie called me in tears.

"We've split because of what I did," she howled. "I'll never be a mum."

A few nights later Kerrie texted me again.

I've taken another overdose, it read.

Fury rushed through me.

"You stupid girl," I howled at her in the hospital.

Thankfully the overdose was unsuccessful.

"What's going on in there?" I said, pointing to her head.

"Go home and read my diary," she replied.

I raced to Kerrie's, determined to find out how to help.

If it wasn't for Chloe and George, I might not be here, she wrote in one entry.

"I just don't feel like a real woman without a baby."

How could I stop that kind of pain?

Over the next two months, I saw Kerrie through another three overdoses.

For my birthday we went for a bottle of wine and suddenly my emotions came pouring out.

"I can't understand why you text me," I wept.

"To say goodbye," Kerrie cried. "I always say not to call an ambulance."

I felt my face turn purple.

"You expect me to let you die?" I yelled.

"I can't help you any more," I said, standing up. "You have to help yourself."

Part of me thought not having me to depend on would help.

Our friend Sarah kept me up to date about how Kerrie was making a fresh start.

I was so proud - but then Sarah called to say Kerrie had attempted suicide again.

I rushed to the hospital, my heart thumping with worry.

A doctor explained Kerrie had drunk anti-freeze and her organs were failing.

The room began to spin.

For the next five hours, I stayed by Kerrie's side, willing her to wake up.

I left briefly to take my kids to school but shortly into the journey my phone rang.

"I'm sorry," a nurse said gently. "She's gone."

I waited for an explosion of grief. But nothing came. I just felt numb.

That night, I went back to see Kerrie - in the hospital's chapel of rest.

She looked so peaceful.

I felt as if part of me had died.

Two weeks later, at Kerrie's funeral, I remembered our happy times together.

I laid some red roses from George and Chloe on her coffin - a final goodbye from the children she loved.

I'm slowly coming to terms with my best friend's death.

I can forgive Kerrie - life without children was too painful for her.

Her friendship has taught me something special - motherhood should never be taken for granted.

It really is a gift.

If you are feeling suicidal and need to talk, call the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 or visit samaritans.org



http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/real_life/article344794.ece#mySunComments#ixzz16Ks3tLMK 


Zero2Cool
14 years ago
wow, insane.
Cheesey
14 years ago
I don't have any kids....maybe i should "off" myself.
Did she ever hear of adoption?
Lots of kids out there that WISH they had a loving home.

Dulak
14 years ago

I don't have any kids....maybe i should "off" myself.
Did she ever hear of adoption?
Lots of kids out there that WISH they had a loving home.

"Cheesey" wrote:



ya its strange sometimes that people get so hung up on things - I mean maybe if she didnt have a friend that banged out a kid when she was 18 and for the fact that she couldnt have kids that it made her want em more.

like she couldnt accept his about herself (obviously).

interesting story thou - imo things like this happen to all of us where we cant accept things and want things to be different
Since69
14 years ago
Sad, but c'mon.

+1 Cheesey
Cheesey
14 years ago
My sister in law had two assholes. So what's the big deal?










(the one she was born with, and the one she married)

TheEngineer
14 years ago
So who is the picture of? The unfortunate deceased or Melanie "kid at 18, another from a fling, not sad over best friend's death" Miller?
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Nonstopdrivel
14 years ago
I think it's a picture of the deceased. You can see the scars from previous suicide attempts on her arms.

I do admit I found the fact she'd conceived not once, but twice, from casual flings a little disturbing.
Formo
14 years ago

I do admit I found the fact she'd conceived not once, but twice, from casual flings a little disturbing.

"Nonstopdrivel" wrote:



That aside.. I'm glad I'm not the only one that really doesn't feel bad for the suicide-ist. There are thousands of other women/couples that are un-able to conceive (including my sister) and they got over it.

Queue the part where I mention how she removed herself from the gene pool a la a Darwin Booth.. But she didn't have to. Hmrph.

Thanks to TheViking88 for the sig!!
longtimefan
14 years ago
Just cuz we think it was a stupid reason for it, to her it was real..

I have always said do not tell me how I am suppose to feel...Those are my feelings..

I am, sure there are others here that have gone thru some tuff times, and couldnt handle life..Should we bash you cu you felt like killing your self?

Sorry for the rant, but she was hurting and there is no reason to ridicule her now that she is dead
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