Cheesey,
Last week I saw a homeless feller pushing his whole life, bags of his life, piled up and falling off the cart, in a stolen shopping cart, through the snow, in a part of North America that it rarely snows.
I am sure he did not have a wife to go home to. I am positive no bar would allow him to enter to watch his favorite NFL Team.
I am also damn sure he never had an Internet to complain about his life on.
Look.... R.P. Loves Cheesey. Next time I am in Wisconsin I would love to take you to Champions for dinner... You and The Wife.
However... It is time to start "Giving Thanks" and stop venting.
10 of the most important two letter words in the English language..
IF IT IS TO BE IT IS UP TO ME
Read this...
http://www.rickhansen.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=35&Itemid=46
Find Your Passion Cheesey. You could spend you time at home making calls donating your time to raising money for diabetes research. Trust me they will pay your phone bill.
In life we got what we got, we can do what we do, or we can keep on doing what we have been doing, and keep on getting what we have been getting.
Call me an ass hole, but that is my humble opinion.
Tough Love.
To: Cheesey.
From: R.P.
"RaiderPride" wrote:
LIke i said........i KNOW there are LOTS of people that have it worse then me. Just because there are times i feel overwhelmed doesn't mean i don't count my blessings or appreciate what i DO have.
Like i said.......i had to get my car fixed......did you note i said i was thankful i had the money to get it fixed?
And my health problems.......i am thankful i can still walk, can still see, can still hear and talk. That hasn't changed. But to walk around with a "fake" feeling of "everything is just great" is not me. To me, thats a lie. It's EASY to think everything is great when it really IS great.
But i also believe that God gives us people to help us through the tough times. How many times in the Bible do we see people "venting?" Does that mean they are just having a "pity party?" Or is it that they are just having a difficult time AT that time, and are looking for someone to talk too?
If i know any time i come to people i consider my friends, and all they will do is chastise me for complaining, i will stop telling them my true feelings and keep them bottled up inside.
I know you are a "motivational speaker". Thats how you make your money. I have listened to many motivational speakers. Some of what they say is VERY useful, some is alot of fluff. You are dealt a certain hand of cards in life. SOME you can control, some you can't. You can do the best you can with what you have, but you can't do everything just because you have a positive attutude. That doesn't mean you shouldn't try your best, because you should. But reality is, that you have to try the best with what you have. And not every day will be a "bed of roses".
A motivational speaker will tell a paraplegic to be thankful he has the use of his arms. A motivational speaker will tell a blind man to be thankful he can hear, a deaf man to be thankful he can see, a quadraplegic to be thankful he's still alive.
Thats their "job".
And even though these statements can be considered "true", sometimes a person needs more then just that. Sometimes a person needs someone to give them a heartfelt hug........or a word said in kindness........or just a shoulder to cry on for a few moments. Does that mean they are weak? Or does that mean they are "human", and not perfect. That they face REALITY, not just "pretend" that everything is hunky dorry, or face ridicule for not "toughing it out?"
I KNOW i'm far from perfect. I have weaknesses. I also have my strong points. But i'm not perfect at everything.
The homeless guy you saw pushing the cart........did you ask HIM if he has done all he could do to get out of that situation? Is HE trying his best? Maybe thats the lifestyle he WANTS. Maybe he doesn't WANT to try. Sometimes people are in worse situations because they just don't care. Maybe they are selfish and only want their next "high", and don't care WHO they hurt. Maybe a person's own actions PUT them in the bad circumstances they are in.
I have things wrong with me that i didn't cause. It just happened.....even though when i was diagnosed i had a GREAT attitude, worked hard, did my best, and was constantly called in the office and THANKED for being the ONLY one in my department that had a positive attitude, and that my actions, through work and talk positively affected my entire department.
Did that prevent me from getting sick? Nope. But i learned to play the hand i was dealt at that time. I had about 2 months where i was sad, and asking WHY now, WHY was this happening to me? Yet i have been able to help others going through similar things because I went through them myself. It's easy to tell someone what to do when you have never had to go through it yourself. But when you can actually KNOW how it feels, you can give realistic ideas to help them.
I could write a book on what i have gone through in my life. What i wrote here so far is a very small snippet. Have others gone through worse? You bet! I wasn't abused as a child, so i have no idea what THAT is like. But other things? Yes......there are lots of things i can identify with, cause i have BEEN there.
Now i am getting more to add to my "book".
Some, i won't share with everyone.
I might just be seen as a "whiner".