4PackGirl
12 years ago
thank you for sharing more about what's going on.
if you need anything...ANYTHING, let me know on facebook & i'll be there for you in whatever way i can.
love to all.
Wade
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12 years ago
Well, that definitely is not the kind of news one wants to hear, Jeremy. Thoughts are with you, your Dad, and the rest of your family. Tears are natural and, IMO, a sign of that strength we all know you have. What Jimmy V said, cry every day and laugh every day.

May your weeks ahead be filled with the laughter of reminiscence and the tears of strength among loved ones.


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Formo
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12 years ago
Had the dreaded 'passing the mantle' talk with Dad last night. I have always had nightmares of this talk, even before we found out he got cancer. He told me how he knows that I'm strong enough to be there for the family and he said, "You promise me that you take care of your baby sister (she's 17) and that you walk her down the isle." Of course, we all were in tears, the scare, tiny little boy replied with, "No, I don't want to.. I want YOU to do it." He told me he knows, but that I had to do it, that I was good and strong enough for it and how proud of me he was.

Was a very emotionally draining weekend. I don't know what else to do or say except to try to keep my mind and body busy with other aspects of life.
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wpr
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12 years ago
I escorted my mother in law (Grandma of the bride) down the aisle last weekend. That was hard enough. Just before walking in, I went over to my sister in law and said "this is for Dad. He would be so proud of y'all". (They live in Alabama.) Gave her a kiss and walked away before I cried.

You will have a more difficult job. I do not envy you at all.
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Pack93z
12 years ago
Formo.. while that probably may have been the toughest moment in your life to date.. I am sure you have made your father and family proud. That is the ultimate sign of trust in my book, to bestow the well being of loved ones upon your shoulders.

I am not sure I could have withstood the trials of the conversation, you my friend have.









"The oranges are dry; the apples are mealy; and the papayas... I don't know what's going on with the papayas!"
Cheesey
12 years ago
Hang in there Formo.
I'll tell you this......i'd be proud as heck if you were my son. And i know that's exactly how your Dad feels. I KNOW he's proud of you, and i KNOW he didn't want to put you in this situation. As you know, it wasn't his choice.
It's got to be hard for him to know all that he's going to miss not being here.
But i also know where he's going, and that's a great place to be.
I know that doesn't help alot at a time like this, as knowing how much you will miss him tears you apart.
I'm here for you my dear friend.
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Formo
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12 years ago
Left work yesterday with texts and voicemails from my sisters to come up north, asap. Dad was incoherent and fighting all day. When we got to their home (2 hour drive) my baby sister meets us at the driveway, crying, and told me, "He's holding on for you." We go inside, and I can hear him moaning. Walk into the bed room with people all around him, and my mother and siblings were laying on the bed crying. I snuggled up to him and cried with the rest. My sisters were telling him that 'It's ok now Daddy, Jeremy's here.. You can go now.. We are all here."

Not long after, he starting waking up and becoming coherent. Wasn't able to speak much at all, but then we all got our time alone with him. The most he moved all day was when my wife told him that she loved him, how he was just as much a daddy as her father was, and how he didn't need to worry that she'd take care of me. He suddenly moaned loudly, somehow rolled to the side of the bed where she was, reached up, grabbed her close for a hug. She bawled and I just stayed in my prone position on the bed next to him. I crawled up to his head so he could see me and promised to take care of his baby girls and he said "Thank". My aunt, who's a registered hospice nurse, told him how he had the best 6 kids a man could have, and I got to see his eyes light up, he nodded his head with approval and said, 'YEAH!'.

The hardest part, though.. Was seeing him like that. I expected him to lay peacefully, sleeping. Not moaning, eyes glazed over, and having very little motor skills. At one point, I was crying, but very angry and threw my hat and glasses out of the room. I had to calm myself down to keep composure for my sisters.. but I wanted nothing more than to rip a door out of the frame.

Right now, he's sleeping peacefully. Haven't been in the room much since last night.. I don't want to leave him, but I don't want to see him like that. I already miss him.
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Zero2Cool
12 years ago
Very sorry Jeremy, incredibly difficult situation.
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Pack93z
12 years ago
Jeremy I have no words to express the heartbreak I feel for you and your family at this time.

We get so caught up in the world and the distractions that we forget about the important things in life until to wakes us up and slaps us square.

Prayers are with you my brother.. if there is anything I can do, yell.
"The oranges are dry; the apples are mealy; and the papayas... I don't know what's going on with the papayas!"
wpr
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12 years ago
Reading your words I was back in my Dad's room. I am glad you have one last time to together. I pray for a peaceful passing for a truly great man.
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