There is a simple way around this account issue.. works rather well.
She has a separate account, I have a separate account and we have a joint account.
We both have a budgeted amount the needs to be deposited in the joint account to cover the bills.. paydays, deposits into the single accounts with moves into the joint to cover the expenses.
Marriage is a partnership, money is part of it. The above allows for a certain amount of individual discretionary money for both, yet covering the obligations in a fiscal approach.
BTW.. these revenge type tactics show a certain amount of immaturity on the peoples part.. in the end you are just taking money out of your own pocket and throwing it away.
"The oranges are dry; the apples are mealy; and the papayas... I don't know what's going on with the papayas!"