I don't understand why someone would let there wife/husband tell them what they can or can't do. It actually boggles my mind. But that seems to be the way it is the majority of the time.
"Nonstopdrivel" wrote:
Yes and no. In a relationship you need to have accountability and standards; otherwise you have chaos. But I totally agree, if your relationship has the primary effect of being restrictive and suffocating, it's not healthy. I don't understand those couples in which friction ensues if one or the other even says "hi" to someone else. I couldn't take it.
I can't count how many times I have asked buddies if they want to go out/go to a ball game, etc... only to have them reply with, "let me ask my wife." What? Why?
"IronMan" wrote:
I agree that the majority of the time, this is a symptom of a man who has no authority in his own house. However, if you were to invite me to a game, I would say, "Absolutely! That sounds awesome! Let me call my wife to make sure we don't have any scheduling conflicts." Similarly, when her friends invite her to do something, she checks in with me too. In large measure it's an expression of respect and trust, but mostly it's a matter of practicality. Neither of us has a perfect memory, and sometimes we forget about things. I'm notorious for double booking. When I decided to try out for the cheer and stunt squad, I let her know what was up, but I didn't ask for permission. (Now if she had been completely opposed to the idea, I certainly would have taken her opinion into consideration, though it may or may not have swayed my final decision.)
They call it "compromising" I call it, "bullshit."
"IronMan" wrote:
For so many people, marriage means the end of their social lives. I call bullshit as well.
I'm not married so I don't have to worry about it.
"IronMan" wrote:
A guy told me the other day, "I wish I was married. Then I'd have someone to answer my texts." lol
"IronMan" wrote: