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Nonstopdrivel
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13 years ago

I'm jealous of people who have relationships with their fathers. Whenever my father does die, it will have no effect on my life whatsoever.

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DakotaT
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13 years ago

I'm jealous of people who have relationships with their fathers. Whenever my father does die, it will have no effect on my life whatsoever.

Originally Posted by: Nonstopdrivel

I agree; I'm not going to go celebrate or anything, but that man really deserves to die alone, like his father before him.

Non, you suppose that's part of the reason you and I are such bastards sometimes to people? We are stand on our own two feet kind of guys, but we miss needing our fathers?

4PackGirl
Registered

13 years ago

i know my husband feels the exact same way about his father.
sad, but true & well deserved.

i'm sorry to you both for what you've endured with your fathers.

Nonstopdrivel
Preferred Member Topic Starter

13 years ago

Could you please edit the title of this thread, Kevin? I don't hate my father. I have spent years of my life trying to re-establish a relationship with him. It is he who cut me off and wants nothing to do with me. He considers me a complete loser and reprobate not worthy of his time, and nothing I have accomplished convinces him otherwise.

There may be something to your theory, Troy. All I know is that I learned that if I couldn't even get approval from my own father, I should not rely on the approval of others. Living one's life in a vain quest for approval is crippling. I know my relationship with my father has also shaped my perspective on God. For a long time I wanted nothing to do with God. I already had a father, I often said. I didn't need another.

Zero2Cool
Elite Member

13 years ago

Could you please edit the title of this thread, Kevin?

Originally Posted by: Nonstopdrivel

If there was one thread that I did not want off topic, it was the one that you tried taking off topic. I felt it was disrespectful, although I 100% believe you had no disrespectful intentions. You just suffer from ADD like myself. 🙂

You can edit the title as you wish. If it does not allow, please let me know and I kick the admins ass for ya.

Formo
Veteran Member

13 years ago

Originally Posted by: Nonstopdrivel

I firmly believe that one thing every man yearns for is the respect and approval of their father, or of another male figure in their life that they respect and love. I know there are differing circumstances, but generally speaking, I think that statement is very true.

And when one doesn't get that respect/approval, they end up filling that hole in their life by many different means. In Troy's case, by being an asshole (it's ok, it's not your fault, T =P). We all are broken in one way or another, it's how we choose to fill the gaps that can make us better or worse.

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zombieslayer
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13 years ago

Originally Posted by: Nonstopdrivel

I could send you a PM but I guess I'll say it here.

This is actually more common than you may realize. Mrs. Z has no family at all. Her father died before she was born and we disowned her mother well over a decade ago. Her mother's an alcoholic/meth addict who took her drug addictions over her own kids.

She had a wonderful uncle. He died.

She had a good half brother. He had a nervous breakdown and no longer recognizes us.

I got a good relationship with both of my parents. Lord knows how grateful I am. What I have is rare.

Be proud of your accomplishments. You shouldn't need approval. You can't control other adults, only yourself. Seeking his approval is a lost cause and spending time on lost causes will drive you nuts.

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DakotaT
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13 years ago

I don't get the needing thing between parents and children. Parents are obligated to provide food and shelter until you are 18, then get the fuck out of the house and make your own life.

If you are actually lucky enough to have parents that love and nouture you - feel blessed; but if you've been coddled too much - you've been severely fucked by your parents because they didn't do their job preparing you for the ugliness of this world.

I agree with Zombie on the parental approval thing. Wasting thought and sleep on that is just craziness. Maybe 5% of the Dad's out there are Ward Cleaver - the rest are fucking up one thing or another. I always say the two biggest problems in this country are sloth and greed - well you can add people not having the courage to stand on their own two feet to the list.

Yeah I might be one emotionally calloused mofo - but God dammit I have the confidence in myself to not need anybody giving me a thumbs up. And maybe I'm a product of a dogshit father and am an anomoly - but I wanted a life and a family and went about it my way. Guess what, when I look in the mirror, I only need to see me.

Nonstopdrivel
Preferred Member Topic Starter

13 years ago

I often say that the primary goal of parenthood is simply to fuck up your children as little as possible. 👻

Wade
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13 years ago

#10

I often say that the primary goal of parenthood is simply to fuck up your children as little as possible. 👻

Originally Posted by: Nonstopdrivel

Then that's one of the few things parenting and teaching actually do have in common.

Do no harm.

Three words to live by.

And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
Romans 12:2 (NKJV)

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