i think it's friggin hilarious that ANY of you actually believe you know what women want!! you can't generalize us, put us in a box, & say unequivocally THIS or THAT is what women want. we are complex as are men. each person has different needs & those needs can completely change throughout the course of the relationship.
me - i'm pretty much an 'in your face' kinda chick. i don't play games, i'm not coy, i'm not a mind reader, & when i ask you what's wrong, that's what i f'in mean. if i'm pissed, you're gonna know it & know exactly why.
first marriage, i had a verbally abusive asshole who got whatever he wanted by playing on my emotions. he didn't stand beside me EVER in ANY decision.
this marriage, we fight like cats & dogs at times but i know that whatever decision we make is together. he's told me lots of times that one of the things he finds most attractive in me is my ability to not take his shit for one second, not accept bullshit excuses, & to call him on his crap. he does the same for me. i've learned more about myself, my life, & my family in the last 3 years thanks to him. he shoves it right back in my face & i've learned so much from that. again, i do the same for him & it's amazing!!