It takes a really big man to prove he is the boss. ::roll: I tired of playing that game long ago. We have been married 28 years so I must be doing something right.
"zombieslayer" wrote:
Does it? Spiderman's uncle said it best, "with great power comes great responsibility."
I am the authoritarian head of the house and my word is final. It's pretty fucking hard work as I'm responsible for everything.
Some husbands/fathers can abuse that power. Sure. I have, and regretted it not for the hurt feelings but because I have a conscience.
Do the right thing. Always. Even if it makes you unpopular.
One other thing of advice I give to couples is there's no such thing as equality. Equality is bullshit. Do what you're good at. Play to your strengths, cover up your weaknesses.
My wife is not responsible with money. I take her paycheck and my paycheck both and from both, I give her a weekly allowance. Her money is for her - it goes into her stocks and her savings. We're old school. I pay for 100% of the bills and her money is extra. If I didn't control her money, she'd buy stupid shit and fill up the house with it. If you think that's sexist, tough. It is what it is.
Speaking of sexist, I have a friend who is the opposite. She is responsible with money and her hubby's an idiot with money. He convinced her to invest HER money and it went from slightly over $1 million to $200,000. Now she can't retire. (Before anyone says "boo hoo, that's still a lot of money," $200k is a lot for Texas, but not a lot for San Francisco).
She should have been the money Nazi and should have taken his paycheck and controlled both their finances. In a couple situation, do what you're good at.
The better chef should cook. The better cleaner should clean. The better driver should drive. The better accountant should manage the money. And the better leader should lead. Like I said, equality is bullshit. It doesn't work. Never has. Never will.
One more thing, women respect men who stand up for themselves. I've walked out on jobs where I wasn't treated well. Actually, twice in the past five years. Both times, I had nothing in the pipeline and it was scary, especially the last time as it was in the heart of the recession. Ironically, both times led to better opportunities.
It's easy to mock guys who get what they want. From my point of view, I roll my eyes to guys who don't stand up for themselves.
"wpr" wrote: