I'm not married, only came 'close' once with being engaged. I've had quite a few relationships and the only parents that disliked me where the girls I dated in High School and Keiana's grandma, who adores the crap out of me now. Go figure, eh?

Anyhow, I don't understand the hatred. Odds are, you're significant other is going to be like their parent, why hate? Where does it come from?

Is it just a married thing that you automatically have to dislike your in-laws?

It's something that's always puzzled me for years. I used to think, they are just playing nice cuz I'm with their daughter and they're trying to be respectful, once I'm gone, it'll be venom spewing for sure. But even after the relationshp's ended, the parents would still talk to me as a friend.

I dunno, it doesn't make sense to me. It must be a married thing, or maybe the girls I've dated end up (somehow) dating a bigger asshole than me and the parents think 'take the lesser of the assholes!!'.


You married folk baffle me.

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I don't hate my in-laws, I just wish they weren't around so much. My wife, her sister, and parents are co-dependents of each other. I don't understand it, don't want to, and just wish it would go away.

I combat this problem by working 80 hour weeks, and try not to be around on the weekends I know the aliens are visiting. Most men seek help from the three wise men: Johnny Walker, Jim Beam, and Jack Daniels.

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lol nice ... 16 hour days ... that must be brutal. I thought the 10-12 I put in everyday was a handful!

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I have enough issues with my own parents, a second set of parents is just annoying 🙂 Have to remember that a lot of times being the male half of the equation, you are defiling some dude's daughter, they might not like you for that.

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8 hours in a soft chair, 5 hours physical work, and 10 hour days on weekends from April through September. And you guys wonder why I'm grouchy.

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I got along well with my in laws. Did the eulogy a couple of months ago for my father in law. Treated him like my father. (Same for my mother in law.) They treated me like their son.

I consider my wife's 4 younger sisters my sisters too. I was the big brother they never had. Esp the younger two girls since there is 8-10 years between us. Any one of them can call me anytime any where and I will come running.

Years ago one of the husbands was abusing his wife. When I found out about it I called my father in law and told him to just say the word I will drive in to Chicago, pick him up and we will go to Tennessee. Just me, him and my aluminum baseball bat and we will have a chat with that boy. I didn't care what the consequences were going to be. He can't treat her like that.

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My father-in-law died before I got a chance to meet him. As I was telling Foster in a chat awhile back, he was a Marine. I'm pretty sure I would have gotten along with him as I have yet to meet a Marine I didn't get along with.

Marines tell it like it is and will make a thin skinned person get all butt hurt, but they're the most loyal people out there. It's really a shame I never got to meet him. He would have been a good Grandpa.

My mother-in-law is a drug addict and hangs around with an alcoholic criminal. Last time we saw them was about 5 years ago and they were homeless. We intentionally don't tell them where we live or else they'll show up with suitcases. We're hoping they're dead. You can only do meth so long before it kills you. His liver is shot so it's hard to say which one of them a-holes will die first.

Does that sound cold? Well, if you knew them, you'd understand. My wife turned out normal by completely shutting them out. They would have dragged her down.

My wife on the other hand is very close to my parents. Don't hate me, but I grew up in a functional family.

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My father-in-law hates everyone, so it's no surprise he hates me too. My mother-in-law and her husband are incredibly nice people, and I'm just not, so the incessant niceness quickly begins to rot my teeth. They're wonderful people, but I tend to keep my visits with them as brief as possible, for my own health's sake. My sons adore them and they adore my sons, so overall the relationship is eminently amicable. I'm blessed to have them in my life -- they've helped us out of a few scrapes that might have otherwise been crippling.

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Heh. Your post reminds me of Ogre in Revenge of the Nerds. Ogre's doing the bench press and the QB is trying to motivate him to lift it up one more time by calling him every curse word in the book. Finally, the QB says "you're nice" and Ogre does several reps screaming "I'm not nice!"

You're blessed to have good Grandparents for your sons.

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Never really had a problem with my in-laws. In fact, they've been there for my when my own parents weren't. Only issue I had with them was their incessant smoking, but they've quit and we get along pretty well. Of course, it helps that they live 3 hours away too. I don't know if we'd get along so well if we all lived together in the same town.

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