Mom and Dad split when I was two. Dad and a buddy of his sold everything they owned, packed clothes and weed and drove until they ran out of money. They landed in Colorado Springs, CO. They started working and started living in Colorado. Dad would send me a t-shirt every few months with a card telling me he loves me.
Sometime after I turned 5, Dad got wind that Mom was bringing me into bars at all hours of the night and was not disciplining me. She let me do as I please, when I wanted and how I wanted.
Dad gave up his 'living like a rock star' type of lifestyle, moved back to Wisconsin with his mother and took custody of me.
Dad raised me by himself until he started dating my eventual step mother (now his ex wife) when I was 12 years old.
12 - 23, things were "ok", until Thanksgiving 2003.
In 2007 when I graduated college I sent him an invitation to my graduation ... as a sign that said "hey, you're jobless, idiot son is doing something with his life".
After that point, we've been trying to repair our father son bond that prior to 2003, family, friends and even people we didn't know would tell us how fantastic it was to see a father an son bond as tight as ours.
I don't know what it's like to have never had a father, but I do know what it's like to have a dad as your hero, your rock, your one person you KNOW you can trust to ALWAYS be there for you ... and then you're borderline ready to end your life and need said hero to guide you back to respectability ... get disowned and thrown to the curb like you never mattered.
Ignorantly, I don't know what's worse. Not knowing what it's like to have a father, or having a great father who was everything to you ... disown you as coldly as humanly possible when you needed him the most.
I suppose the saying goes, it is better to love and lost than to have never loved at all??
I would have to say having a father and then being thrown away is better than not having one at all.